For as the body is one and has many parts, and all the parts of that body, though many, are one body—so also is Christ. For we were all baptized by one Spirit into one body—whether Jews or Greeks, whether slaves or free—and we were all made to drink of one Spirit. So the body is not one part but many. If the foot should say, “Because I’m not a hand, I don’t belong to the body,” in spite of this it still belongs to the body. And if the ear should say, “Because I’m not an eye, I don’t belong to the body,” in spite of this it still belongs to the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would the hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But now God has placed each one of the parts in one body just as He wanted. And if they were all the same part, where would the body be? Now there are many parts, yet one body.
So the eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” Or again, the head can’t say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” But even more, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are necessary. And those parts of the body that we think to be less honorable, we clothe these with greater honor, and our unpresentable parts have a better presentation. But our presentable parts have no need of clothing. Instead, God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the less honorable, so that there would be no division in the body, but that the members would have the same concern for each other. So if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it. Now you are the body of Christ, and individual members of it.
A shocking statement when you openly would hear someone saying to you: I don’t need you! Not that we always need to be needed, but the rejection that speaks through it can really confront us!
We raise our kids, of course, so they can stand on their own feet! We learn them to take care of themselves, in due time and I also know that some people like it when their children stay depended on their parents even when they would not openly express it. But it is not the visible, obvious way we make things clear, but the way we life as if…
The eye can not say to the hand “I don’t need you!” The head can not say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” I mean, it not even is an option or a choice, it is impossible… and then… We live the lie every day, every hour and also every sunday! I don’t need you! And in a way, you are right! The way we live our lives expresses, speaks out loudly that there is no need of each other. The husband and the wife have their own economy, no dependance since dependance is a bad thing! At least thats what we have made of it! We hate it to be depended of each other, to live from each other! We are equal and with it come the right to be independent!
So today we make ready for church! Today we shout out loudly by the way we live, we shake hands, we meet and greet, “I don’t need you!” We are family, but I don’t need you! I can take care of myself! I need your tools, your help sometimes, but there is no need of making me complete, whole, better and stronger!
As again there is the Lords Supper today, there is the warning: For those who eat and drink without discerning the body of Christ eat and drink judgment on themselves.(1 Cor. 11:29)
Discerning the body, understanding the need, the covenant, the “dependance” of being His Body!
There is only one way to get understanding! Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.